Always be prepared for an irrational argument

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Most of us have been there. You get into an argument. You were talking about birds, and suddenly, things heated into a debate on how you've been shirking your responsibilities. Asking a single question brought out loads of pent-up, left-unsaid disappointment against you which
you probably would have corrected if you told in time. It could your spouse, your family members, or your friends who started it.

But, it doesn't matter what started it. It doesn't matter who started it. All that matters is that you can put the matter to rest. Rationally.

Except you can't.

Cause they’re not making any sense. They are throwing accusations at you which were never true, and all you can say in your defense is that it never happened. They are telling you are wrong in all aspects from walking to thinking which no one would believe except the offending party.

Everything’s topsy-turvy, and it's making you angry. How do you tell a person that two plus two is four when they are adamant on it being five. What are you to do? Sure, you are not saintly, but certainly, you are not Satan. You would like it much better to be shown the faults you did (even if you hate it) than faults you never did.

Well, first you understand that they are human. And I know it sounds like a defeat, a win for irrationality. But, the thing is they are not machines. They make mistakes. You make mistakes. And sometimes, we are not willing to accept that we make mistakes. Emotions flare, and reason is abandoned for reaction. We must be calm and not put more oil to the inferno else we do start doing it. We must forgive them in our hearts and not be mean about it.

So, in the future, you find yourself in an irrational argument, accept your faults, but also forgive theirs.

Because if we only forgive what can be forgiven, what is the use of forgiveness?

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